"Can I break up with my de facto via SMS?"
When it came to $1,120,000 from a Super Binding Death Nomination, either way the court has said, ‘you can't end a de facto relationship over a TXT message' (sent to your sister)’.
Read in this article
- Can you end a de facto relationship by sending a TXT for a super Binding Nomination?
- What you need to know first to understand this sad and unusual situation
- What happened
- Was this TXT sufficient to indicate a relationship break up?
- The outcome
- De facto relationships and their Binding Death Benefits can be equally complicated
- FAQ's
- I’ve updated my Will to exclude my ex-partner. Doesn’t that automatically cancel out my old super nomination?
- I’ve just separated from my partner who I nominated on my BDBN. What should I do right now?
- What if I don't make a binding nomination at all? Who gets to decide where my super goes?
- I heard some nominations expire after 3 years. Is that true for all of them?
- Can I just nominate my brother or my parents on my BDBN?
- Sources & Further Reading
Can you end a de facto relationship by sending a TXT for a super Binding Nomination?
Well first of all this begs the question, Whose your Super Beneficiary?
In a recent Full Federal Court case on appeal (Nguyen v Australian Financial Complaints Authority [2024] FCAFC 77), the Court ruled that a text message alone was insufficient to terminate a de facto relationship immediately before the sender’s death.
What you need to know first to understand this sad and unusual situation
- The vast majority of Australians have Super or an SMSF
- You can have a Life & Disability Insurance premiums paid from your super fund
- You can make a written Binding Death Nomination and make your wishes clear to the Trustee of the Super Fund, who they must pay your super fund balance to, upon your death.
What happened
Mr Corbisiero, who died by suicide, had superannuation entitlements of $1,120,000 as at the date of his death.
- Prior to his death, he had made a binding death nomination in favour of his then de facto partner, Mr Nguyen, directing the trustee of the super fund to pay 100% of his entitlement to Mr Nguyen, in the event of his death.
- Shortly before his death, Mr Corbisiero sent a txt message to his sister via Whats App, stating his wishes.
- This txt message raised a legal question about whether the binding superannuation nomination should still be honoured, leading to a legal dispute over the intended recipient of the death benefit.
Toxicology reports revealed that at the time of sending the text message and at his death, Pino Corbisiero had both cocaine and alcohol in his system.
The message stated (errors original) below:
This is my will and testament as from 1st of September to whom it may concern I want to leave all my property and assets to my family to my brother and sister and my nieces and nephew only and no one else. James receives nothing of my assets all for he has put me in the position or stage of my life where I had enough. Can I also ask my family this only be family thing I want no friends of james to be there what so ever. I am very sorry I Done this but I need peace and hopefully I get that now really sorry but please understand I happier now than before.
Was this TXT sufficient to indicate a relationship break up?
In this case, the only conduct to end the relationship, was the text message sent by the deceased to his sister stating his intention to take his own life.
The appeals court found, this was held not to be conduct sufficient to terminate the de facto relationship between Mr Nguyen and Mr Corbisiero, and therefore the Court found that Mr Corbisiero had not actually taken steps to end his relationship with Mr Nguyen, prior to his death.
The outcome
As the text message was insufficient in ending the relationship, Mr Nguyen was the deceased's spouse as at the date of his death, the non-lapsing binding nomination in favour of Mr Nguyen was valid and consequently, the court affirmed the deceased’s de facto partner was entitled to the death benefit payment. (See SIS regulation 6.21(2A))
The Federal Court ruled in favour of Mr Nguyen, stating he was entitled to the benefit because he and Corbisiero were living together, when the deceased passed away.
“In my view, the textual link between entering into and terminating a de-facto relationship is clear. It is coincident with commencing to live with a person on a genuine domestic basis in a relationship as a couple and ceasing to do so. ... Where, however, there is no such communication, there must, I think, be some other conduct that is apt to stand as a practical manifestation of the intention so formed. A person who tells a third party of his or her intention to end a de facto relationship should not be understood, merely by that communication, to have done so. In my view, termination requires some other conduct inconsistent with the continuation of the relationship…" Justice Snaden
De facto relationships and their Binding Death Benefits can be equally complicated
This appeal courts decision highlights not only the importance of clear demonstrable acts, regarding the status of the de facto relationship at the time of death, particularly as it relates to superannuation benefits, but also as a reminder that as Australians super fund balances increase, so will the parties who may seek access to them.
The Federal Court ruled in favor of Nguyen, stating he was entitled to the benefit because he and Corbisiero were living together when the deceased passed away.
Make your intentions very clear, keep your death benefit nominations up to date make sure your financial advisor knows where your Will document, is and what are your written Super Beneficiary nomination instructions.
FAQ's
Your Ending relationships and updating the key paperwork Questions, Answered. Here’s a quick summary of what you need to know about ending relationships, binding death nominatiosn and unintended legal consequences.
I’ve updated my Will to exclude my ex-partner. Doesn’t that automatically cancel out my old super nomination?
This is the single most dangerous misconception in estate planning, so let's be crystal clear: No, it does not. Think of your superannuation as being held in its own separate legal world, governed by superannuation law and the fund's trust deed. Your Will governs the assets you own personally.
A valid Binding Death Benefit Nomination is a direct, legal instruction to the trustee of your super fund. They are legally bound to follow that instruction, regardless of what your Will says. If your BDBN names your ex-partner, and you haven't revoked it, they will get the super payout. Your Will won't be able to stop it.
I’ve just separated from my partner who I nominated on my BDBN. What should I do right now?
This is a situation that requires immediate action. Do not delay. Your first step, today, is to contact your superannuation fund and ask for the specific form to revoke or change your Binding Death Benefit Nomination.
Every fund has its own administrative process. You will need to complete their required paperwork, have it witnessed correctly (this is crucial), and send it back to them. Until the fund formally accepts your new nomination, the old one remains in place. Treat this with the same urgency as changing the locks on a house – it’s a critical administrative step to protect your assets.
What if I don't make a binding nomination at all? Who gets to decide where my super goes?
If you don't have a valid BDBN in place, the decision falls into the hands of the super fund's trustee. They are legally required to use their discretion to pay the benefit to one or more of your "dependants" as defined by superannuation law (your spouse, your children, or someone financially dependent on you).
While they will often consider your Will as a guide, they are not bound by it. This can lead to significant delays, potential legal disputes between family members, and an outcome you never would have wanted. A binding nomination removes that uncertainty and puts you in control.
I heard some nominations expire after 3 years. Is that true for all of them?
You're right to ask, as this is a key technical point. Traditionally, most BDBNs were "lapsing," meaning they were only valid for three years from the date you signed them. This was designed to force you to regularly review your nomination.
However, many super funds now offer "non-lapsing" BDBNs, which remain valid indefinitely unless you actively change or revoke them. It is absolutely critical that you know which type you have.
- A "non-lapsing" nomination in favour of an ex-partner is a ticking time bomb,
- while a "lapsing" one might have expired without you realising, leaving the decision up to the trustee.
Check with your super fund immediately.
Can I just nominate my brother or my parents on my BDBN?
Generally, no. Superannuation law is very strict about this. You can only validly nominate a "dependant" as defined by law. This includes your current spouse (married or de facto) and your children (of any age). It does not typically include parents, siblings, nieces, or nephews unless you can prove they were financially dependent on you or in a formal "interdependency relationship."
If you want your super to go to a non-dependant, the correct strategy is to nominate your "Legal Personal Representative" on the BDBN form. This directs the super trustee to pay the money to your estate, where it will then be distributed according to the instructions in your Will.
Sources & Further Reading
- Superannuation Industry (Supervision) Act 1993 (Cth) s 10 - The primary legislation defining who qualifies as a 'dependant' eligible to receive a superannuation death benefit.
- ATO: Nominating a beneficiary for your super - Official guidance from the Australian Taxation Office on Binding Death Benefit Nominations.